36.Answer the questions. (根据短文内容回答问题)
Remember to Say Thank You
I'm here to talk to you about the importance of praise, admiration and "thank you", and let them be specific (具体的) and genuine (真诚的).
And the way I got interested in this was, I noticed in myself when I was growing up, and until about a few years ago, that I would want to say thank you to someone, I would want to praise them, I would want to take in their praise of me and I'd just stop it. And I asked myself why?I felt shy. I felt embarrassed. And then my question became, am I the only one who does this?So, I decided to make a survey.
I'm fortunate enough to work in a hospital, so I can see people who are facing life and death. One man's biggest wound is his father died without ever saying he was proud of him. But then, he heard from all the family and friends that the father told everybody else that he was proud of his son, but he never told the son. It's because he didn't know that his son needed to hear it.
So, my question is, why don't we ask for the things that we need?I know a gentleman called Tony, married for 25 years, who would like to hear his wife say, "Thank you for being the breadwinner so I can stay home with the kids," but doesn't ask.
We'd like to win praise but it really has to be specific and genuine. I know a woman. She' good at this. She, once a week, meets with her husband and says "I'd really like you to thank me for all these things I did in the house and with the kids." And he goes, "Oh,this is great, this is great." But does his praise really work?
And a friend of mine, April, who I've had since kindergarten, thanks her children for doing some cleaning. And she said, "Why wouldn't I thank it even though they're supposed to do it?By the way, will the children be pleased with their mother's thanks?
So, be honest about the praise that you need to hear. What do you need to hear? Go home to your family member﹣go and ask him/her, what does he/she need?And then help the people around you.
Thank you for being here, just showing up and changing the world with your ideas.