30. Do you know someone who just can't make friends?Sometimes we may find it hard to connect and make friends. When we talk with others, some social habits need our attention.
Talking about yourself
Conversations are give-and-take. When you only talk about yourself, you're just taking, not giving. So learn to ask questions, and when you listen, don't prepare your next thought in your mind. When both are listening, the conversation becomes much more interesting.
Looking at your phone
Every time you stare (盯着) at your phone, you miss the chance to connect with another person. This is not just important with strangers, but even with friends, because looking at your phone tells everyone, "My phone is more important than you."
Uninterested body language
Some people use their hands a lot when they speak, and some of us don't. But body language isn't just about our hands. It's about our whole body. When we don't look at the person we're talking with, it shows that we don't really care. I feel bad about this sometimes, too.
Rushing
Friendships are a type of relationship, so it's not proper to get too deep too quickly. Some people share their whole life story too fast, but that will make the listener feel uncomfortable.
Social habits | Shouldn't do | Should do | Reasons |
Talking about yourself | *(1) . *Prepare your next thought when you listen to others. | | Conversations are give-and-take. |
Looking at your phone | Stare at your phone. | *(2) . *Listen. | It may make people feel your phone is (3) . |
Uninterested body language | | (4) . | It may show that we care. |
Rushing | (5) . | | That will make the listener feel uncomfortable. |