7. Negative thinking is one of the biggest obstacles (障碍) we face in experiencing happiness, but here's hope. Here are two strategies to help defeat your negative thinking.
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When you're heading into a social gathering, you begin to wonder what if I don't connect with anyone. Am I even likable?Faced with this situation, do something that lifts your mood. (2)
For example, listen to a song that makes you smile or take a moment to appreciate people in your life who love you. Positive emotions literally reduce the effects of anxiety by lowering our heart rate and muscle tension.
The other is to combat (战斗). (3)
But in reality, our minds feed us messages that range from the embellished (渲染的) truth to total lies. Imagine yourself in court. You are the prosecutor(控方律师), and your negative thought is the defendant (被告). (4)
When he shouts out "You're not good enough at your job", you need to consult the evidence you have to prove it wrong, argue back with the strongest piece of evidence you can find. Always remember your task is to get the judge to hear your side. So you can say "I am good enough because every performance review I've had has been positive. And my boss told me last week how much she enjoyed working with me."
Both of these strategies, to distract and combat, are skills anyone can learn and get better at with practice. (5)
A.He's guilty (有罪的), but he insists that he's not guilty and sticks to his story. B.Remember, with each negative thought you defeat, you've successfully earned your own happiness. C.That is, have a positive emotion. D.We often believe that our negative thinking is true. E.One is to distract. |